nature & health...
5:14:00 PMI got this from the newspaper...
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i found those tips are useful =)
It's all about...
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~leave your emotional baggage behind~
It goes something like this....
" If you drag emotional baggage from one relationship to the next, you put a prospective mate at a disadvantage before you even begin. O_o
When you present yourself as a damaged goods, you might as well as have a billboard on your head that screams " please be the one to fix me!"
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as much as guys love to repair things, they prefer cars n gadgets to women. -.- ( i wonder =P )
No sane and stable man wants to play "Mr Fix- It" when it comes to dating game.
Everyone wants a partner capable of fixing oneself.
Every relationship should start with a clean slate.
But sometimes our insecurities and scares from past break- ups make us punish a new love for crimes that he/she didn't commit. "
Here are some commons signs of emotional baggage:
- you don't open up: People with unhealed wounds from broken romance aften feel vulnarable, making them too scared to open up even a new partner provides a supportive and loving environment. *sigh*
- your action speaks louder than your words: You tell your partner how much you admire or love him/her, but then do everything in your power to disaprove that with condenscending or hurtful behaviour. * sorry to the victim*
- you test ur new partner
- you don't take responsibilitiy for ur mistakes: you blame your previous partner for the demise of your relationship and for every bad thing that's happened to you. Refusing to take shoulder any responsibility or blame cultivates a victim mentally.
ways to unload your emotional baggage?
- give your partner a break
- don't burden your partner with sob stories
- analyse every failed relationship you've
- face your faults
- realise that emotional baggage is a huge turn- off
~ teeheehee.. how izit??
~those aren't my ideas... :p
~but it's useful rite? :D
~ enjoy ~
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